Daughter sparks debate after asking father to pay $200k for destination wedding

Many people dream of having the perfect wedding. But the truth is that weddings can be extremely expensive.

One worried father took to the Reddit thread AITA (Am I The A*****e) and asked from fellow users to tell him whether he’s in the wrong for refusing his daughter’s lavish wedding besides making a heartfelt promise to finance the event in the past.

As any parent would do, this father told his daughter that when the time comes, he would not only contribute financially, but he would cover all costs related to her wedding. What he wasn’t aware of was that his daughter’s plans for her happiest day would exceed all of his expectations of what a wedding should cost.

As he described in his post, his daughter, although from New York, wanted to have her wedding in New Zealand. On top of that, she was planning on inviting between 100 and 200 guests. Not only this, it would carry a staggering price tag of $200,000.

This revelation left the father at a crossroad. He did want to make her daughter’s wish for her dream wedding a reality, but he was torn between doing such a thing and what he described as “burning money” and fearing it would alienate family members.

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He posted about his dilemma, writing, “My wife feels I should do it because we can afford it, but I find it to be a pointless showing of wealth. Now my daughter is not talking to me, nor is my wife. Which got me thinking should I bite the bullet and essentially burn money, and alienate family members to make my daughter’s dream wedding a reality?”

Redditors were quick to share their opinion, and as expected, most of them believed the father was not the a*****e for refusing to pay for such a wedding.

 “If she can’t pay for a destination wedding on her own, then she shouldn’t be having a destination wedding. It seems cruel but it’s true. Not to mention there’s so much more money involved with the flights and the hotels and stuff. Is she going to be paying for her own ticket or are you expected to fork out for them too? And her fiancé’s ticket,” one person wrote.

“Not to mention the fact that she’s thrown a strop and isn’t talking to you tells me she doesn’t deserve it. I’m a believer of we are not entitled to our parents money. I don’t expect any inheritance off of my dad if he ever passes, even though he has a big life insurance. I would rather have my dad than the money,” they continued.

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Another redditor proposed a compromise; the father should give his daughter a budget consisting of how much he believes he should pay and everything above that should be covered by the daughter.

“Establish the amount of $$ you are willing to provide and give her the budget. Tell her anything above that is on her and her fiance. Make sure to tell her if that includes travel, etc for the bridal couple and family members. If she wants a blow out wedding, she can pay for it,” they wrote.

The father still hasn’t posted of his final decision, he just added that his daughter is now not talking to him and is calling him names such as jerk.

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76-year-old Susan Sarandon criticized for her clothing – has the perfect response for haters

From the role of Louise in the groundbreaking movie Thelma and Louise to Sister Helen Prejean in Dead Man Walking, stunning Susan Sarandon makes one of the most beloved Hollywood actors.

Besides having an incredible career which spans many years, Susan is also using her fame to promote body positivity and self-acceptance as two essential elements which lead to overall well-being.

Over the years, Susan has experienced certain health issues which stood on her way to become a mother at younger age. Being diagnosed with endometriosis, an often painful disorder in which tissue similar to the tissue that normally lines the inside of the uterus — the endometrium — grows outside the uterus. Besides being painful, this condition often prevents women who suffer from it to conceive. Sadly, this was the case with Susan, who struggled to get pregnant for many years.

When she shared the news that she was expecting her first child at the age of 39, many were surprised with her “unusual” decision to start her “mommy career” “so late” in life.

Susan, who received an Oscar nomination for Atlantic City in 1980, gave birth to her first child, daughter Eva Amurri, in 1985.

In 1988, after her marriage to Amurri came to an end, she began dating Tim Robbins, an actor who was 12 years her junior. She and Tom welcomed two children together, sons John “Jack” Henry (born in 1989) and Miles Robbins (born in 1992).

“I had my first baby at 39 and my third at 45, and with each child, [people were] like, ’Are you crazy? Don’t!’” Susan once revealed in an interview.

Besides the struggles, Susan never doubted that she would become a mother one day. “It’s not okay to miss out on a part of life because of pain and excessive bleeding,” she said in 2011 at an Endometriosis Foundation of America event.

Today, not only she is a mom of three, but she’s also a grandma of three sweet grandchildren from her daughter.

Susan stands for strength and confidence and yet she is sometimes a target of critics who don’t like the way she dresses. One of them is Piers Morgan who widely chastised her for her outfit on Twitter in 2016. He especially criticized her for her white suit jacket, which could be undone to show cleavage and a black bra.

“Would Susan Sarandon wear this to a funeral? No. It was thus horribly inappropriate for an In Memoriam tribute,” Morgan tweeted.

In another tweet, he added, “To clarify, I’ve no problem with Susan Sarandon flashing her breasts. Just tacky to do it when fronting ‘In Memoriam’ at awards show.”

Some Tweeter users who agreed with him went so far that they called Susan “unattractive” and a “wretched, old, dried up, nasty nobody.”

She then decided to speak up for herself and her style. ”While I may not be fully versed in every aspect of fashion, I am aware of what personally appeals to me and what captures my interest, which I choose to embrace. I don’t feel the need to constantly conform to popular trends,” she told Harper’s Bazaar in 2019.

Also, she posted an old photo of herself in her underwear, proudly displaying her figure. After all, a picture is worth a thousand words, and Sarandon shut up anyone who was questioning what was ‘appropriate’ for her and what wasn’t.

Susan is not at all concerned when it comes to aging. In an interview, she said, “When your sense of time has an ending and isn’t finite, like how it feels when you’re young.” She added, “When you have an understanding that time is precious—you have a tendency not to waste energy on the small stuff and only to surround yourself with people who are vital, curious, brave, and adventurous.”

The truth is that Susan Sarandon is approaching her eighties and she still looks as fabulous as ever.

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15 benefits of staying single most people don’t realize

Not feeling like being in a relationship or getting married and have children in a society that values romantic connections isn’t easy. For many, however, opting to stay single doesn’t mean being lonesome but being self-sufficient and able to experience liberty at its finest.

Sadly, the societal bias can lead to single people feeling that their lives lack significance if they are not in a relationship. But despite these societal expectations, staying single is a valid choice for a number of people.

The chances of personal development, self-care, and placing your personal happiness on the top of the list of priorities are just some of the benefits of being single rather than in a relationship.

Here are some benefits of singledom many people don’t realize.

Independence

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When you are single, you get to make your own decisions regarding important steps and choices in your life, as well as deciding on minor things such as what and where to eat and how to spend your time without having to take other people’s wishes and desires along the way.

Self-Development

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We all strive to become the best versions of ourselves, and when in a relationship, that’s not always possible. When single, however, one can put all their time and effort working on themselves and their self-development, on pursuing their passions and do what fulfills them.

Financial Freedom

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Not having to accommodate another person’s financial habits when spending your own money must feel great. When you are single, you get to decide what you are spending your money on yourself. You have a complete control on your finances and on how you safe or spend the money you earn.

More Time for Friends and Family

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Singlehood means having more time for your friends and family. You can nurture these sorts of relationships and make them stronger. When you are single, you create relationships with your friends on a more personal and higher level. This, at the same time, means better and richer social life.

Career Growth

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When in a relationship, most people are forced to adjust the decisions they make regarding their career to that one person they are with. When single, you have the flexibility to take career risks and make strategic moves without the constraints that may arise within a partnership.

Personal Space

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Your place is your own peace of heaven and you get to decorate it based on your personal likes and preferences without having to take other people’s wishes into consideration. With this, single life brings tranquility and living on your own terms only.

Less Drama

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Most relationships come with a lot of drama and having to adjust to other people’s personalities all for the sake of avoiding conflicts and arguments. The single life can easily spare you from such stress and help maintain your peace of mind.

Flexibility

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Single life brings the opportunity to better flexibility, whether it is about making any last minute decisions or else.

Greater Self-Reliance

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When you don’t have someone to depend on, you become more self-reliant and more independent, two very important personal traits for a successful life and career.

No Compromises

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It is a general truth that every relationship consists of making plenty of compromises with the person you are with, but when you are single, you act upon your own wishes and desires, and that level of liberty can never be achieved if you are in a relationship.

More Opportunities to Meet New People

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When single, the opportunities of meeting new people and getting to hang out with them is higher than when in a relationship. And as we all know, meeting new people leads to new friendships and new experiences.

Less Pressure

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Once you decide that you don’t need anyone in order to be happy and feel complete, you won’t feel the pressure to satisfy the society with being in a relationship with someone.

Better Health

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According to research, people who are single tend to be more active, and with that lower the chances of suffering from heart diseases. The absence of stress that often comes when one is in a relationship reduces the likelihood of mental illness as well.

Learning to Love Yourself

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Singleness gives you the opportunity to understand yourself better and build a healthy relationship with your own self, which is the foundation of all other relationships you have with the people in your life.

Freedom to Change

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When you are single, you can easily embrace any change. Whether it is about your career, the place where you live, or any daily routine habits.

The bottom line would be that those people who are single, whether by choice or circumstance, can experience independence, personal growth and self-discovery at another level.

At the end of the day, every person knows what’s best for them, whether to get involved in a relationship and marry eventually, or simply stay single.

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My brother’s wife keeps sending me special thanksgiving menu to cook for her 5 years in a row – I finally confronted her

Family relations can be complex at times, especially when in-laws get into the picture.

A woman took to Reddit to ask fellow users if she’s in the wrong for canceling Thanksgiving dinner, which she hosted for the last 20 years, because of her brother’s wife’s demands.

Namely, the woman explained that during the last five years, for as long as she had known her sister-in-law Julie, the sister-in-law always had some special wishes regarding the dinner.

“Julie is very big into fad diets (Atkins, keto, South Beach) and every year she sends me a list of foods that she cannot eat and a list of things that she can,” the OP explained.

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Being the host and wanting everyone to have a great time and be satisfied with the food, the woman always followed Julie’s wishes, but she somehow always found a way to make things uncomfortable for the rest of the guests, which consisted of family members only.

During the last year’s festivity, Julie got into an argument with her husband, the woman’s brother, because he refused to eat her ketogenic diet food. This made everyone feel bad and the atmosphere felt awkward after that.

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This year Julie again sent a list of things she could and she couldn’t eat because she was following a diet that would help her with her fertility as she was trying for a baby through in-vitro fertilization (IVF).

However, OP wasn’t willing to prepare any special meals any longer so she replied to Julie explaining she was making a single meal only.

“I texted her back and told her that this year I was making one meal and one meal only and she could either eat what was being served or bring her own food.”

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Somehow, Julie was deeply offended and angry at OP for not considering her request. She even told her husband about it. He called OP and told her she was acting selfishly and that she should agree to prepare a special meal for his wife. As things got heated, the OP’s mother got involved into it as well, as her brother called her and complained about his sister not fulfilling his wife’s wish.

He even reminded OP that his wife prepared special food for her once because of her allergies. In her defense, OP said that her food allergies were life-threatening, and Julie’s diet was her own choice that changed every year. OP’s mother agreed that Julie’s wishes were hard to fulfill because she changed her diet all the time and that in the future, if she wants to be part of any family gathering, she should bring her own food.

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Because of all the mess that was created, OP decided to cancel the Thanksgiving dinner. “I am serving (Thanksgiving menu). If they want to come over and eat with us, they are welcome to do so,” she wrote to everyone who was invited.

Some of the family members said the woman shouldn’t have canceled the tradition of hosting Thanksgiving dinner, while others supported her decision.

Most of the Reddit users criticized Julie’s behavior and were in favor of OP.

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Former first lady Rosalynn Carter passes away at age 96

Former first lady Rosalynn Carter passed away at the age of 96, her family reported. In the statement they issued for the public, they wrote that Rosalynn “died peacefully, with family by her side” at 2:20 p.m. at her Plains, Georgia, home in the country.

The Carter Center reported that Rosalynn battled dementia and that her health deteriorated recently.

“Rosalynn was my equal partner in everything I ever accomplished,” former president Jimmy Carter said in the statement. “She gave me wise guidance and encouragement when I needed it. As long as Rosalynn was in the world, I always knew somebody loved and supported me.”

In private conversations, President Carter’s aides would sometimes call her “co-president.”

During his presidency from 1977 to 1981, Jimmy Carter told aides, “Rosalynn is my best friend… the perfect extension of me, probably the most influential person in my life.”

During his presidency, Roselynn wasn’t just a First Lady, but she was her husband’s closest advisor and stood by his side supporting every decision he made as a head of the country.

After leaving the White House, the Carters returned to live in their family house in Plains, Georgia. The house, which according to Zillow is valued at $209,996, was built in 1961, when the Carters welcomed their fourth child in their lives and needed a bigger place. The couple always led a quite and a very simple life.

He never took any advantage of post-presidential popularity and was reported saying: “I don’t see anything wrong with it; I don’t blame other people for doing it. It just never had been my ambition to be rich.”

The Carters had been part of the Habitat for Humanity for many years and helped renovate around 4,300 houses in 14 different countries.

Before coming to Washington in 1977, Rosalynn was seen as unassuming and quiet, but she soon turned into an eloquent speaker, campaigner and activist. She was well-known for her efforts on mental health and caregiving and women’s rights.

“The best thing I ever did was marry Rosalynn,” Carter told the C-SPAN cable TV channel in 2015. “That’s the pinnacle of my life.”

Before Jimmy Carter was elected president in 1976, he was a peanut farmer-turned-governor. Following his election, he and Rosalynn moved to The White House and became a powerful team, with Jimmy referring to her as “an extension of myself” and “my closest adviser.” She wasn’t just a first lady, but someone who was heavily involved in her husband’s work. What’s most, she attended important cabinet meetings and political strategy discussions. According to Jimmy Carter, he shared almost everything with his dear wife, except for the top-secret material.

“I think she understands the consciousness of the American people and their attitudes perhaps better than do I,” he said in a 1978 interview.

Rosalynn got the nickname “the Steel Magnolia” because of her influence, loyalty, and compassion. It was reported that while serving as a first lady, White House staffers sometimes sought her approval on initiatives before bringing them up to the president.

She became interested in mental health during the time her husband ran for a governor in Georgia. “I used to come home and say to Jimmy, ‘Why are people telling me their problems?’ And he said, ‘Because you may be the only person they’ll ever see who may be close to someone who can help them,’” she explained.

When Ronald Reagan won the elections in 1980, Rosalynn seemed more distraught about it than her husband. It was likely because of the fact that she wasn’t as keen as Jimmy to be returning to Georgia, where the couple spent most of their lives.

“I was hesitant, not at all sure that I could be happy here after the dazzle of the White House and the years of stimulating political battles,” she wrote in her 1984 autobiography, First Lady from Plains. But “we slowly rediscovered the satisfaction of a life we had left long before.”

Rosalynn and Jimmy Carter shared a lot of interests together, like bird watching and helping the community through the organization Habitat for Humanity, which builds homes for people in need. They were heavily involved with other organizations that offered help, and that required a lot of traveling.

“I get tired,” she said of her travels. “But something so wonderful always happens. To go to a village where they have Guinea worm and go back a year or two later and there’s no Guinea worm, I mean the people dance and sing — it’s so wonderful.”

The Carters were married for 75 long years, and their life story is one of the most beautiful there are.

Rosalynn’s family lived next to Jimmy’s and she was a very good friend with his sister. She remembers that Jimmy’s sister had a photo of him on the wall and she fell in love with that photo showing young Jimmy wearing his uniform.

During a visit of his hometown from the Naval Academy, Jimmy laid eyes on Rosalynn and immediately knew she was the one. Speaking to People, the former president said: “She was beautiful and innocent, and there was a resonance.” They started dating but didn’t marry until she turned 18 because she made a promise to her dying father that she won’t marry before finishing school.

During the first years of marriage, the couple constantly moved places because Jimmy was often deployed at different locations. However, Rosalynn didn’t mind that. In fact, she loved being on the move with him and when he made the decision to give up his career in the Navy, she wasn’t glad. “I had been self-sufficient and independent from my mother and Jimmy’s mother,” she told The New York Times.

Being married for so many years must be a challenge, but the Carters didn’t see it that way. They had always been by each other’s side; during presidency and while he battled cancer. Speaking of the secret to a long and happy marriage, both Rosalynn and Jimmy said that they had never went to bed angry at one another and knew how to enjoy the simple things that many take for granted, like cherishing each other’s company.

“We’ve just grown closer and closer together,” Jimmy said of his relationship with his wife.

We are so very sorry for former president Carter’s loss.

As of Rosalynn, she will always be remembered as a very special person who had done a lot for the country. May she rest in peace.

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‘I’m leaving y’all’: Whoopi Goldberg walks off ‘The View’ amid Miranda Lambert controversy

Whoopi Goldberg walked off the set of ABC’s The View after a heated debate over the viral video of Miranda Lambert calling out fans at a recent concert. 

The comedian and her fellow hosts, Sarah Haines, Joy Behar, Sunny Hostin, and Alyssa Farah Griffin were in the middle of debating the viral moment when Miranda Lambert stopped performing her hit Tin Man mid-song to tell off a group of girls from the audience for taking a selfie while she was performing when Whoopi got up and left.

“They don’t want to be there if they paid money for the tickets, they came to see her. So if she’s singing, at least a little respect so that knowledge you can see her and she can see you too,” Whoopi said. 

However, the co-hosts didn’t agree with her point of view.

“I’m not split on this at all. The expensive tickets in the vip section that they were in are $757. I’m going to take as many selfies as I want if I paid $757,” Sunny said, prompting Whoopi to leave.

Her exit triggered laughter at the audience when she spotted a 91-year-old and stopped to take a selfie with her, saying, “I’m leaving y’all. Because I want to take a picture with this marvelous woman who is 91. So we’re going to do a selfie. Me and you.”

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Jennifer Aniston reveals text she got from Matthew Perry ‘out of nowhere’ before his tragic death

The tragic and sudden passing of actor Matthew Perry brought sadness all over the world.

The actor was found dead on October 28 in the hot tub of his LA home. Allegedly, he sent his personal assistant to run some errands for him, and when she returned home, she noticed his body under the water. As per reports, Perry died of drowning. The results of the toxicology report authorities asked for are yet to be revealed, but what is known is that there were no illegal drugs found at the scene.

According to Perry’s closest family and friends, at the time of his passing, he was sober.

The star behind the much-loved character of Chandler Bing battled addictions for the most part of his life, but he never stopped trying to get back on track, despite the failures he experienced over and over again.

The relationship Perry shared with his five best friends on screen translated into equally profound friendships off screen.

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Jennifer Aniston, 54, Lisa Kudrow, 60, Courteney Cox and David Schwimmer, 57, all dressed in black, arrived at Forest Lawn Church of the Hills in Los Angeles, while Matt LeBlanc met them outside following the tearful service.  

“We are all so utterly devastated by the loss of Matthew. We were more than just cast mates. We are a family,” the cast said in a joint statement. “There is so much to say, but right now we’re going to take a moment to grieve and process this unfathomable loss. In time we will say more, as and when we are able. For now, our thoughts and our love are with Matty’s family, his friends, and everyone who loved him around the world.”

The Friends stars later shared individual tributes to the man they considered family, and that included LeBlanc and Aniston, whom Perry said reached out the most to him once the filming of the cult series was over.

Aniston stood by his side through thick and thin and she was the one who stayed in close contact with him during his ups and downs.

A friend of hers told Daily Mail, “Nobody shed more tears for Matthew during the darkest points of his struggles with addiction than Jennifer.”

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“All five of the Friends cast are in real bad shape, but Jen’s by far taking this the worst,” an insider told Woman’s Day.

“She’s torturing herself with each and every scenario where she could have done this or should have said that. She was one of the last people to speak to him, and she’d planned on calling him on Sunday [the day after he died]. She’s been going over every word, but no one could have known.”

The insider stated: “The real pain is the fact she’s been with him almost every step of the way. She had huge hopes for a big comeback for Matthew, and they were talking about working on a new script together. There was so much to look forward to, but even Jen knows it was his body that gave out, not Matthew.

“She knows he wanted to live, which makes his premature death unbelievably cruel. He had so much more to give. She’s absolutely crushed, and it will take her a long time to recover. She will never be convinced she didn’t do everything she could to save him, but she truly did. The world had Matthew Perry for a lot longer than expected thanks to Jen and Courteney Cox helping him through those dark times.”

Sharing her tribute to Perry, Aniston also included a screenshot of a message Perry sent to her just days before his passing in which he told her that making her laugh “made my day.”

Aniston had responded to the message by writing: “Awww the first of THOUSANDS of times…”

Rest in Peace, Matthew Perry.

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Twins conjoined at birth set to start school

Rosie and Ruby Formosa, from Bexleyheath in Kent, were born joined at the abdomen and shared an intestine. This meant that in order to survive, they needed to undergo an emergency surgery. Separating them seemed like an impossible mission, and their parents were told that the chances of the girls’ survival were extremely slim.

The family prayed for a miracle and hoped for the best outcome possible besides the facts that the odds were against them. Luckily, following an extremely complex surgery which was done at London’s Great Ormond Street Hospital (Gosh), the sisters were successfully separated.

Speaking of the time they learned the babies she carried were conjoined, the girls’ mother, Angela, said, “At 16 weeks they sent me to King’s College Hospital and it was there that they discovered the connection between the girls.

“It was heartbreaking, really – I was already worried that they were monoamniotic (where twins share an amniotic sac), and conjoined was the worst-case scenario.

“I was really, really, really scared and really upset because at that point I was told that there was a high possibility that the girls wouldn’t survive the pregnancy.”

“And if they did survive the pregnancy they might not survive the birth, then they might not survive surgery. They couldn’t tell what was connecting them.

“I didn’t prepare to bring them home. It wasn’t until they were in hospital and they’d had their operation that my husband started painting the bedroom and getting everything ready for them.”

Four years following the successful surgery, Rosie and Ruby started school. The proud mother said the girls had now met their teacher and were “very excited” to be attending school just like their older sister Lilly.

Despite the parents being overjoyed that their girls started school, they admit the house would be empty without them while they are away.

We are so glad things turned out for the best for these beautiful girls. We wish then only the best life brings.

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