Children are a blessing from God. A mother is no less than a miracle who gives birth to new lives with pain and strength. What happens in the labor room is just between the wife, husband and the doctors and nobody else’s business.
People are assuring a woman that her angry reaction was justified after she revealed that she yelled at her husband during a New Year’s Eve celebration with his family because he joked about her “traumatic” birthing experience.
In the post, the 25-year-old woman explained that she gave birth to the couple’s daughter a few weeks ago, and that, because it was her first child, she hadn’t known what to expect and the experience had been “pretty traumatic”:
I f25 gave birth to my daughter weeks ago, My experience was pretty traumatic and since it was my first, I had no clue what to expect. Forgive me for the vague details for privacy but I’ll mention all the relevant stuff, I promise.
When I went into labor I had the most difficult time of my life, I was in pain for hours. My mom was with me but she had to go and my husband was with me the entire time. I did something so embarrassing in the delivery room, I pooped myself which was unexpected and just…
I don’t know but it was embarrassing and although my medical team were very professional about it, my husband couldn’t help himself and started laughing about it later and even telling my family about it but they didn’t react, just didn’t find it funny and neither did I, In fact, I found it embarrassing and I already told him to stop bringing it up especially when he started joking about getting me diapers for my “opsies!!”. It got really tiring and chipped away from my self esteem and confidence.
We were with his parents celebrating new year’s eve together when I excused myself to the bathroom. While I was getting up he made a quick remark and said “oh yeah, you should go quickly because we don’t want any accidents just like the one we had at the hospital, you know what I mean?” While blinking at me. His family actually laughed and BIL commented “good one!”.
I was astonished and so angry and ashamed, I literally just lost it on him and yelled at the top of my lungs calling him a cruel insensitive jerk for using the difficult experience of birthing his child as a joking matter and humiliating me in front of everybody. He was shocked, staring back at me and not saying a word. All went silent and I just stormed off to the bathroom til we left and that was when he snapped saying I messed up by talking to him like that in front of his family during dinner, I said I couldn’t hold my tongue for that long and after he kept joking about an embarrassing thing when I told him to stop.
He said he was just joking and I went overboard with my reaction and also, I should’ve sucked it up and waited til we got home so we could address this privately and I could even yell at him as long as I wanted. We argued about it after we got home and he kept saying I humiliated him in front of his family during the celebratory evening by being petty and trying to one up him… He even said I should’ve laughed along and not fly off the handle like that.
The argument didn’t end there, as she explained: “We argued about it after we got home and he kept saying I humiliated him in front of his family during the celebratory evening by being petty and trying to one up him…
“He even said I should’ve laughed along and not fly off the handle like that.”
The woman ended the post asking people if she overreacted, but the vast majority were firmly on her side of the argument.
One person wrote: “NTA (not the asshole). What a cruel and immature joke to make, ask him to push a watermelon out his dick and see if he can do it without any ‘embarrassing accidents’.”
Another agreed, commenting: “NTA what the hell? So he can humiliate you by ‘joking’ in front of his entire family about a deeply private, personal and traumatic experience that you have ALREADY ASKED HIM to stop making remarks about, but if you call him out on it in front of those same people, somehow you’re at fault.”
Some also pointed to the fact that it’s common for women to have similar accidents during childbirth and it is completely normal.
One person replied: “Nope, NTA. Your husband is an immature, insensitive jerk. Pooping yourself during birth is quite normal, but to make fun of you about it is not cool.”
Someone else agreed, writing: “NTA. Pooping during labour is natural and expected by the doctors/midwives, that’s why they don’t bat an eyelid when it happens.
“Your husband is definitely TA (the asshole) and needs to grow the hell up and understand that you and your body have been through a traumatic experience.
“He should be supporting you, not bringing you down. You need to tell him that he’s acting like an immature child who is fascinated by poop!”
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