Growing up, I used to envy those who were lucky enough to have both their parents by their side. Sadly, I was raised without a mom, and no, I didn’t loose her to an illness or a tragedy, but because she chose not to be part of my life once I turned 11.
My mom left my dad and me for another man and she didn’t look back until there was no room for forgiveness.
Years after she abandoned me, she appeared on my doorstep, telling me she was ill and didn’t have much time left, begging me to let her move in with me.
“It’d mean a lot if I could stay in the home I raised you in,” she told me, but my answer was no.
Yesterday, the police came to my door. They told me she had passed away the night before. For a moment, I froze and couldn’t speak.
I didn’t know if I felt guilt, sadness, anger, or just emptiness.
The officer explained that I was her emergency contact.
A day later, her lawyer handed me a small box and said, “She wanted you to have this.”
After he left, I stood there, unsure if I even wanted to open it.
Inside was a worn photograph of me as a child, maybe eight or nine, smiling with two missing teeth, my mom holding me from behind. Beneath, there was a letter.
She admitted that her choices had caused pain she could never undo. She explained that she left not because she stopped loving me, but because she was broken herself and ran from responsibility. And yes, she said she had watched me grow from afar, afraid to face the damage she’d caused.
My mother asked for forgiveness, not because she wanted to relieve her guilt, but so I wouldn’t carry her mistakes into my own life.
That day, I couldn’t stop crying. I cried for the mother I lost, for the child who waited, and for the adult who never got closure. I didn’t forgive everything, but I released enough to breathe again.
But I chose to honor what her absence taught me: loyalty, emotional courage, and the strength to stay when life gets hard.
I’m still learning and thriving. I learn how to let go of the past and don’t let the day my mother left me define who I am as a person.
One thing I know is that I choose not to let bitterness be part of my life, and I guess that’s more than enough.
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