Relationships aren’t always a bed of roses. The truth is that a relationship requires lots of effort, communication, and even sacrifice, but sometimes, no matter how hard someone tries, there are certain qualities the partner possess that make them unattractive.
These traits are not always obvious but we tend to start noticing them later on. The thing is that once we see them, it’s hard to unsee them, which leads to looking at our partner with different eyes.
As per the BBC, this is known as “the ick,” a word added to the Cambridge Dictionary in 2024, to the surprise of many, we must say.
It also refers to being attracted to some of our partner’s traits at the start of our relationship – “fatal attraction” – and then disliking those same characteristics.
“It doesn’t mean fatal in the sense of deadly, but fatal as in the sense of prophetic,” says Diane Felmlee, a social psychologist from Penn State University in the US.
“I like to think of it as having ‘too much’ of an attractive quality,” she says. “Disenchantment with a partner can occur even when people get what they want, and perhaps because they get what they want.”
In this article, we’ll explore some of the most unattractive qualities in a partner.
Dishonesty
Being dishonest to someone who trusts you immensely can permanently damage the relationship by shattering their faith in you.
Catching your partner in one lie after another breaks the foundation of any healthy relationship.
Selfishness
Prioritizing your personal needs and desires over your partner’s over and over again can affect your relationship. Remember that mutual consideration and respect of your partner’s goals and wishes is what makes a relationship going strong.
Insecurity
Being insecure about yourself and not trusting your partner is one of the traits that make you unattractive. Jealousy, possessiveness, and constant need for reassurance from your partner can be tiring for them.
Control Freak
The partner’s controlling behavior can be a huge turn off. “Don’t wear that!” “Who were you talking to?” and similar demands can only make your partner take a step back from you and your relationship.
Bad financial habits
Financial compatibility is one of the crucial aspects of a relationship. Poor spending habits, lack of planning, or financial dishonesty can create major stress and tension between partners.
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