That knock on the door and the words “your husband is a monster” shattered my world. What started as a day of relaxation and some time for myself, turned into a complete chaos that ended my marriage of twelve years.
Looking from outside, everyone believed my marriage to Andrew was picture perfect. We lived in a suburban neighborhood, our children attended an elite school, and we both had high paying jobs working in the same company, he as a manager, and me in HR.
Reminiscing my relationship with that charming man whom everyone adored, I realized there were way too many red flags that I somehow ignored.
Andrew has always been overly protective, but now, as I think about it, he was in fact possessive. Whenever I would engage in a conversation with someone at work or at a social gathering, he would pull me aside, reminding me not to get too friendly.
On the other hand, he never forgot my birthday or our anniversaries. In fact, he was pretty romantic and treated me with flowers and a lot of attention. Yet, there were always those late meetings at work and a female perfume on his shirt that he blamed on the office environment.
That day, I was home, taking a day off in order to be able to have some time for myself.
Just as I finished vacuuming and was getting ready to enjoy a good book, there was a loud knock on the door.
My neighbor, Melissa, who was usually a very composed woman, stood there trembling and with tears in her eyes.
“What’s wrong Melissa,” I asked in confusion.
“Your husband is a monster,” she screamed.
About 30 feet behind her, running toward my house, was my husband. The same husband who was supposed to be at work.
Seeing him, Melissa grabbed me by my hand and pulled me inside, shutting the door behind her.
Trying to compose herself, she said, “Andrew and I have been together for two years.”
“What?” I yelled.
“He said he would leave you, and I am now carrying his baby and he’s threatening me and asking me to terminate my pregnancy,” she added through tears.
Andrew’s words through the door, “I can explain,” were enough confirmation that Melissa was telling the truth.
What followed were days of constant arguing and Andrew begging me for forgiveness.
However, his actions were something I could never get over.
He promised to change, begging me to take him back. But, the damage was done.
While my children still had their father, I no longer had a husband.
The divorce was a painful one, but it was something inevitable. I felt liberated and was ready to start my life over away from him and Melissa.
Andrew remained part of our children’s lives, but he was no longer part of mine.
For what I knew, I always deserved someone better.
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