Earlier this week, Heather McManamy, a badass wife and mother, died of breast cancer. At her request, her husband Jeff shared a final letter she wrote to friends and family. The letter is full of humor and profanity, reminding everyone that Heather was definitely the kind of person you wanted to have in your life. Her final words have received thousands of shares on Facebook and they’ll probably make you laugh/ ugly cry.
She opens with the bad news, but quickly moves on to the more positive angle:
So…I have some good news and some bad news. The bad news is, apparently, I’m dead. Good news, if you’re reading this, is that you are most definitely not (unless they have wifi in the afterlife). Yes, this sucks. It sucks beyond words, but I’m just so damn glad I lived a life so full of love, joy and amazing friends. I am lucky to honestly say that I have zero regrets and I spent every ounce of energy I had living life to the fullest. I love you all and thank you for this awesome life.
She offered a fresh perspective on how to comfort her daughter:
Please, please, please do not tell Brianna that I am in heaven. In her mind, that means that I chose to be somewhere else and left her. In reality, I did everything I could to be here with her, as there is nowhere, NOWHERE, I would rather be than with her and Jeff. Please don’t confuse her and let her think for one second that is not true. Because, I am not in heaven. I’m here. But no longer in the crappy body that turned against me. My energy, my love, my laughter, those incredible memories, it’s all here with you…Please tell Brianna stories, so she knows how much I love her and how proud of her I will always be (and make me sound waaay cooler than I am).
And she reminded everyone that cancer is, in fact, the loser:
And don’t say I lost to cancer. Because cancer may have taken almost everything from me, but it never took my love or my hope or my joy. It wasn’t a “battle” it was just life, which is often brutally random and unfair, and that’s simply how it goes sometimes. I didn’t lose, dammit. The way I lived for years with cancer is something I consider a pretty big victory.
And finally, she told everyone to turn up in her honor:
If you go to my funeral, please run up a bar tab that would make me proud. Heck, blast “Keg on My Coffin” and dance on the bar for me (because there had better be a dance party at some point). Celebrate the beauty of life with a kickass party because you know that’s what I want and I believe that in a weird way, I will find a way to be there too (you know how much I hate missing out on fun). I look forward to haunting each one of you, so this isn’t so much a goodbye as it is see you later.
Check out the entire hilarious and heartbreaking letter below:
Heather will be sorely missed. Her friends and family were lucky to have her.
We might be crying a little bit. A lot.